Friday, January 1, 2010

Getting Unstuck

Happy New Year!  Here we are at the end of another year as well as another decade.  A time when we look at the future with new eyes and see the potential in our lives.  Time to wipe the slate clean and start all over, so to speak.  Are you ready to make those changes you have been thinking about for years?  What stops you?  Do you quiet that inner voice inside of you when it tells you to break free and reach for your dreams?

I got thinking about this and wondered if others were thinking they were stuck as I was but also not sure how to make the change or get out of the rut they are in.  Honestly, it is baby steps... but YOU have to take that first step.  Once you take the first step, the next one gets easier until you have a good stride going.

I thought about where I want to be in the next decade and how I want my life to look like.  I don't necessarily need to be a millionaire.  I know, I know... it is everyone's dream but why?  Living comfortably and being able to travel a bit while you work is nice, too.

The expectations of how you look if you own a house, drive a nice, expensive sports car and wearing designer clothes is what society dishes out and people fall into it.  With that comes the huge credit debt that people cannot handle and then where are they.  Stuck in that rut again.

Me?  I am comfortable in jeans, shirt and my Uggs boots.  Don't get me wrong.  I love going out on the town, dressed to the nine and having a good time but that is not me every day.  But I concede that it might be your dreams and that is good, too.  But the question is, what are you doing to get that dream?

Seriously... think of the day you will die.  Lying in a bed, surrounded by loved ones... what will be your last thought?  What life movie will go through your head as you slowly fall asleep in this world?  Will you look back and think you didn't do a thing in life that was fun, exciting or just adventurous?  Will you think you didn't travel enough or didn't finish school the way you wanted?  Will you think back and wonder why you didn't take a risk and fully live?  Living fully doesn't mean that you have to make a huge difference in the world... but if you do, even better.  What it means is that on that last day, you can smile and say, you did all that you wanted and are at peace within yourself.  You have no regrets about what you did and where you are.

So now, let's focus on you being stuck... what to do?  Well, first of all, what DO you WANT in your life?  Write themdown.  Prioritize them.  Make a plan on how you will attain each goal or dream.  Decide which one you can do now and ones that will take longer.  Now at this point, think to that day in a bed and what you want to see in your mind's eye.  Believe.  Have faith.  Focus on the dreams.  Be determine that you will get there and attain them.

Don't tell the world about it but share it with a friend or two or even better, with a mentor who can guide you or at the very least, cheer you on.  And big thing here... celebrate the small steps that you have accomplished.

Life is beautiful and how you live it decides how your life movie will look at the end.  Don't let petty things get you down.  That is not to say to discard your responsibilities like paying your bills or going to work but when you have attained one goal, your perseption changes and you start to move closer to the next one, then the next one until you realize, it is time to make more goals and dreams because you finished the ones on your list and you look back and realize how much you have done in your life at the point.

Keep your heart light.  Keep an open mind.  Let the bad in as well as the good as it has something to teach you.  Think of all that was accomplished thus far and know that you can do it.  Give yourself reasons why you CAN do it, not reason why you CAN'T.

With that said, I wish you a joyful new year filled with fun times, laughter, unconditional love, compassion, goals and dreams galore.

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