Thoughts

I have come to this day with a different outlook than the day when I started this blog.

Back then, I was negative, hurt, lost and not sure where to go but wanted a place to voice my thoughts and see if there were others that think as I did.

Today, I'm a different person. I see that I am positive, healing, on the right path and seeing the potential of what could be, what I am and where I could go. Honestly, the possibilities are endless.

Funny how a few years and many different experiences, good and bad, can change your attitude and behavior.

These days I am seeing the same people in a different light but instead of being angry or hurt with them, I see them with humor.

There were a few that were "out to get" me and I was out to get them back but now I have to chuckle and let it go. Yeah, I finally made it out of high school. Hahaha! Gotta have those that forever stay there and have that mentality, right?

I realize that how I see them now makes me think of how we all see one another. This one woman could not get him to stay in their intimate relationship because she wanted marriage and he is against it. He wouldn't talk to me while he was with her but when they break up, he come back to my friendship. She would call me hurtful names without knowing me or my personality and boast that she knew him better.

In the end, it isn't that we know someone better but that we know them differently because our relationships are based on different levels.

If I based my friendship with her way of seeing things then, he told me his secrets, slipped and told me hers as well, so wouldn't that mean I know him better because he was so open to tell me her stuff, too?

But that is not how it works and we have to learn that. We all have relationships with the same people but in different ways because we are all different from one another. You, me, her, him and yes, even that guy over at the end of the bar, twiddling his straw.

Don't take this as gospel because it is just my opinion but it helps me to see people in a different light now and change how I react to them.

Thanks for reading. Bright blessings.

Love

Love...

Such a simple word yet it carries so much power.

People seek it. They sing about it. They want it. They lie for it. They steal for it. They kill for it. They live for it. And so many die for it.

But what IS love?

I have been giving it a lot of thought the last few years, through my experiences up to now at 52 years young; watching people around me and talking to friends about their view on love. I decided it was finally time to put it all down on "paper."

So many claim to be the love expert but that cracks me up. I watch a few of them that make that claim and they way they live their lives, makes you realize that they are trying to convince themselves they know what love is, when in reality, they don't so they try to seek it by saying they are the experts. I don't think anyone can be so arrogant to claim to be a love expert... well, except maybe Cupid. LOL!

I think we all see love in our own way. How we grew up and where we grew up plays a huge part. I believe that most of us don't even really know what it is so when it does cross our paths, we tend to miss it.

But I am finding that as I get older, what we think of as love, we are all wrong.

Love is quite simple. It is pure. It's giving and forgiving. It's that small spark that lights us up and warms our heart.

We humans! We complicate it. We make drama out of it. And in the end, we lose it. All this becomes entertainment fodder for the Gods and Goddesses.

One thing I have learned is that if you put any expectations and stipulations on love, it does pass you by. Stop writing those pros and cons list. Love is not about that. If someone says they don't want a long term commitment or they don't want to get married, then right there they have put stipulations and like Love's sister, Karma, Romantic Love says, "Ok, good luck. See ya!" People says they have a fear of commitment. No, that's wrong. What they fear is love. As I said, if you put stipulations on it, it doesn't show itself so these people who fear it, never really know what love is because they are too busy running from it.

Family Love and Friend Love is like Romantic Love. It has to be nurtured. There is no "how to" book on how to be a parent, a sibling, a child or a friend. We take it each day and learn to grow with these people around us and learn to love them. And more importantly, we learned to be loved back.

Of course, there are families that are not loving but I think it is because that is what they learned and they repeat that vicious cycle over and over with each new generation until one of them finally draws the line, steps back and tell themselves they are worthy of love and makes the change for his or her life and future family.

If you really want to know what love is, open yourself to it. Crush down those walls around you. Let go of all the things you saw or heard as a child. That was not your life but someone else's. Let love come inside. Let love live inside. Believe in it. Have faith. Have hope. You never know, you just might get what you always been searching for.

Take a moment, sit in our quiet and let's introduce ourselves to Love.

Bright blessings to you and wishing you all... yes... love.

2014 Has Begun...

So weird to write 2014.

Where does the time go? It is true when they say time waits for no man (or woman).

I took the chance tonight to go through and clean out my blog of the old negative stuff because it does not have value to me and that is not what I want to put out into the world. I want to continue to put out positive, good vibes. My small part to the Universe for being so negative for so long.

Yes, I finally get it!

So as we start this new year, with Winter Storm Bethany/Hercules (depending on who you ask) I wish you many wonderful adventures, much laughter and unconditional love.

Keep hope alive that this year will be just as good or better than last year!

Love and Light!