Monday, March 21, 2011

On The Road

Happy Spring everyone!

I wanted to let you know that I will be getting ready to get on the road for my move so I may not be here much in the next few weeks. Once I get settle in my new place, I will pick the blog back up. But if something tickles my fancy, I may hop on and blog via my iPhone.

I will continue to post on my Facebook page via my phone so if you want to follow my journey across the country, come join me at:
http://www.facebook.com/annikerlin 

Look out, Connecticut, here I come! LOL! Ciao for now!

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Quilts for Japan

Those that were affected by the tsunami, are without electricity, clothes and warm blankets/quilts.

I belong to a crafting group and one of the magazines we subscribe to, are working with their Japanese counterparts to get quilts made and sent  from the U.S. They needs them for babies, kids and adults.

If you are interested in sending quilts, please send them to:

Dana Jones
Quilters Newsletter
741 Corporate Circle, Suite A
Golden, CO 80401

• Mark your box: “Quilts for Japan.”
• Send quilts as soon as possible and no later than April 30, 2011.
• Enclose your name, address, phone number and email with the quilts.

You can go to the Postal Service and their large box, fits two, maybe three good sized quilts, (if folded tightly), that can be sent for very little money. I cut and pasted the rates from the USPS site.


Priority Mail Flat Rate Options
Price
Priority Mail Small Flat Rate Box
8-5/8" x 5-3/8" x 1-5/8"
$5.20
Priority Mail Medium Flat Rate Box (FRB1)
11" x 8-1/2" x 5-1/2"
$10.95
Priority Mail Medium Flat Rate Box (FRB2)
13-5/8" x 11-7/8" x 3-3/8"
$10.95
Priority Mail Large Flat Rate Box
12" x 12" x 5-1/2"
$14.95

Because this is a donation, everything can be used for your taxes next year, so keep all your receipts. Like when creating a quilt, every little bit helps.


Arigatogozaimasu. (Thank you kindly.)


Friday, March 18, 2011

Cultural Differences

A friend I grew up with in Japan, Helen, noted on her Facebook page today about how the Japanese people are acting in the face of this disaster. 

She said, "she admires the Japanese for being so composed after such tragedy. I have seen images of rescue workers praying over dead bodies, and have seen footage of the rescued apologizing for being an inconvenience to the rescuers. No looting, no rioting, no chaos. Just people helping each other out." 

I watched this video that someone had taped with their phone. He was stuck in this one area surrounded by water. In the midst of that area, there was one house still standing so everyone else stuck along with him walked to that house to find shelter and warmth. The people that lived there welcomed everyone openly. They shared what little food they had AND apologized for not having more. They all sat around a fire and comforted each other.

How many times in other countries facing these disasters that the military police has to be on hand to keep looters out and control the situation? You don't see rescue workers honoring the dead as they find their bodies. You don't see people being humble for being rescued.

It has been ingrained in the Japanese culture to be civilized, to help one another and to be compassionate. They have integrity and are honest, hard working people and most would not take from others to have more. They share. They share what little they have to keep the community alive. Remember, Japan is a country that believes in Buddha.

I recall when I was young how my mother would say certain things when I acted out. Kamisama (God) will punish you if you act like that or you will get a bachi (bad Karma) if you say this. So as young kids, my friends and I learned to act a certain way, to help without being told, to be humble and grateful for what we have in our lives. Sure, we are Americans but we grew up differently than the kids, stateside.

Today on the news, the governor of Tokyo, Shintaro Ishihara, told reporters that the disaster was "a punishment from heaven" because the Japanese have become so greedy. That is how they think. They overstepped their bounds and get punished for becoming so greedy.

Maybe other countries including the U.S., needs to take a page out of their book and adjust how we live in a society of greed and arrogance.

I wrote this article on Monday because of what my friend had posted and submitted it to the Japanese magazine that I guest write, from time to time. I translated it into English and posted the article on my FB Notes page and had gotten tons of feedback from almost all of my friends, either as a comment or mostly in a private messages. Some were from friends whom I grew up with and related to my story; others hadn't noticed it until it was written and wanted more clarification. And others had noticed but didn't understand how it could be. As I told them, it is just as it is supposed to be. They are Japanese. They are proud yet humble. Strong yet gentle. Dedicated and loving. That is the background I come from and I am honored to call myself Japanese, even if only half.

Here we are, a week later, the military, both Japanese and U.S. stationed there, are having problems getting into the area due to increment weather. It is freezing temps with lots of snow, making it hard for helicopters to fly as they cannot see clearly to land safely.

The stores are running out of food, yet they are placing all items 50-75%  off and know that their sales are going to be bleak this year. Everyone in Japan will have to start over. But they are doing what they can to help one another and still no police to control anything and no looters to be found anywhere. Just a lot of people that are grateful to be alive, who hope that their loved ones that they have not found are, too.

Today, a friend found an article relating to my article on CNN's website. She told me about it as she had read what I had written earlier this week. Now CNN was telling the world. Here is their story.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Sunday, March 13, 2011

SF Buildings

I just love the architecture of a lot of the buildings in San Francisco.

A couple friends and I went into the city to watch the St. Patty's parade today and had a blast. Instead of driving, we took BART (Bay Area Rapid Transit) a few miles from my apartment. Park and ride; beautiful!

Once we got into the city, we walked around to see what was happening since it was a beautiful sunny and warm day (65 degrees), while we made our way to the parade route.

I caught this first one while we were looking for the parade and had gone the wrong way. It is the TransAmerica Building behind some apartments. I was standing on Sacramento Street and Front Street.

From where we were standing, the builing is two blocks to the left and three blocks up, near Fisherman's Wharf.


































This second one I caught as we turned around to walk back up Front Street to Market. I thought it was pretty cool how they lined up like dominoes in the sky. They are all office buildings. Can you imagine working on the top floors in earthquake country? I am sure the view is breathtaking and on the back side, you can see the SF bay into the Pacific Ocean. But still...



































By the way, great shots from my iPhone, huh? I keep getting more impressed with the photos I have been taking lately with it. Almost don't need my really nice camera... maybe.

If you ever get a chance to come to San Francisco, glance up and see all the spectacular buildings that make it the city it is.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Souls

Some friends stopped by a couple hours ago to see my towers of boxes in my apartment, making them realize that I am really out of here soon.

We were sitting in my living room, chatting and just hanging out when the topic turned to souls. I don't recall how it got started but Sue asked, "what if everything you do in life, good or bad, determines how long your soul lives?"

Kevin wanted to clarify the question and asked "do you mean, if you do something bad, it is bad for the soul or do something good, it is good for the soul?"

She said that was half of her thought but her full thought was, "what if you did something that was bad to someone. That act would "kill" a part of the soul. If you did something good, it counteracted that bad act and fill in that part that started to die. So if you do good and some bad, you would have a balance, per se."

It got quiet while we thought about her theory. What if?

Joe asked, "do you mean that evil people do so many bad things that their soul is dead and they never recover?"

Sue answers, "yes, sort of but I wasn't thinking it would completely die. Or maybe it does. I hadn't really thought the whole thing through but it was something that caught my attention when I read something recently."

I said, "I don't think it works that way because if that is the case, I know of a couple people that should be dead right now because of how they treated people in their lives. I mean, what would constitute good or bad? Are there levels? Lying is a low level. Stealing is a level up. Murder the highest of the bad level? How long does it take? One lifetime? Two or three?"

Kevin then spoke up and said that it could be a possiblity that the opposite was true and which could account for why so many good people died young. Their souls are so filled at such a young age because of how good they are, that they need to empty it in Heaven (or wherever) or are needed to do other work in another realm. Those who live the longest figure out a balance and the truly evil just fade away.

It was a unique thought and one that is continuously spinning in my head as I write this.

I know that I have not always been the upstanding person I am hoping I am now and I would like to believe that the good I have done in that past few years have made up for some of the bad that I have done in my younger years and the hurt I have caused people, including my family.

It is definitely a good thought to hold and ponder. What do you think?

Retiring from Politics

After years of serving his people and the people of the world, His Holiness, the Dalai Lama is retiring from public life and politics. He is getting his well deserved break to enjoy life simply now.


If you want to learn more about him, you can go to his site or check out his page on Facebook.

He is one person I would like to meet as he has taught me, through his talks, a lot about buddhism, the world and about my journey in this life.

Nammyohorengekyo

Monday, March 7, 2011

Clean Start to a New Life

There is always a time in your life that things don't go right and you need to start over. Readjust your thinking on how you live your life, who to let in and who to let go. Sure, I have talked about this before.

I need to realize that sometimes external conditions happen to affect decisions that are made that are out of your control. And the big one? Take responsibility for what has happened, even if it hurts too much.

Of couse, I am off to my new life but that doesn't mean I want to leave the bad stuff hanging. In a way, you take it with you so I am cleaning up. I want to leave no stone unturned or any loose ends that were in need of closure.

I talked about this before but I left my hardest out because I was not ready to face them. Now I am and luckily, my list was short and as tough as it was, with a heavy heart and a box of tissues, I typed out my lengthly emails and off they went to close that part of my life. For good, perhaps. I don't know if they will read it, let alone get it since I know one person's email may no longer be a good one but I needed to do it for me. To forgive myself so that I can move on.

It is with tremendous gratitude that I think of each of them. They came into my life when they were needed and made me who I am today. And I am better for it, no matter what.

The thing I had to teach myself is that the blame for what happened lies on both parties, not just my side. So as much as I feel bad, they share the blame for the way our relationship has been or ended.

"Words have power. Words can make or break relationships.

Every word that we speak uselessly is as dangerous as gossiping. Every word that is malicious will or is used to slander will subsequently lead to a degradation of the consciousness.

Every slander that is expressed in a vulgar language and gross terms then that is equivalent to killing our inner conscious. With every slander and gross terms we hurt others and our own self in the long term.

We need to choose our words carefully & it is a choice that we need to make consciously or else we end up with broken hearts and broken relationships."

I read those and knew that some of my words in the past were hurtful as the words and actions of those were hurtful to me. I see my wonderful future and that changes. Every word will be from compassion.

I am off to my new start... wish me luck!

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Ending with Dignity

I got in last night after dinner with family and was going to quickly check Facebook because a friend had sent a text and wrote he posted a funny video on his page about a mutual friend.

Cracking up with laughter after watching it, I started to browse my Home page, was about to close it when a post with a link caught my eye... "51 hours to live..." I had to reread the title as it startled me in my mood of joviality. How can that be? How does this person know?

With a little apprehension, I click the link and started to read the string of comments. Turns out he knows because that is when he is ending it. He is 39 and has lymphoma that has pretty much taken over most of his body. He has lived in pain for some time and lost his dignity because of what the disease does to the body.

With heartache, he watches his family being dragged into the pools of depression, sadness and darkness. He wants light. He wants smiles. He wants normal, considering the circumstances.

I don't know him but what he wrote and how he touched thousands of people in mere hours, blew me away.

He had sent his family away to get dinner so he could have some time to interact with others before he left so he went to the site, decided to have a "world tour" and started a conversation with anyone, anywhere in the world. What followed was something I am sure he did not expect.

He wants to end his life with any remaining dignity he has, alone and pain-free because he has endured do much with the disease. "Who I was doesn't matter. I'm in pain, I'm tired and I'm finally being granted a small shred of respect."

His screen name is Lucidending and this is his story.

He has since lost his password and cannot log back on but what he left behind in words and how he touched people in such a short time is amazing. It is heartbreaking yet very inspiring to read.

Edgar the Fish was so touched by his story and his "world tour," that he created a map on Google that people can comment and check in to.

If you want to add your location, go to the map, you can follow the instructions or if you have a Google account (same as Gmail account), write a comment and it will automatically tag your location on the map.

Come Monday evening around 9PM Pacific time, please say a prayer for him and his family as he takes his leave and goes home.

For more info on Oregon's Death with Dignity Act, click the link.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Happy Girls Day!

Today, March 3rd, is considered Children's Day or more specific, Girls Day in Japan. It is a holiday that was always celebrated in our home because my parents had three girls. My mother has the traditional dolls with the 5 tier display. It was the day we all wore our special silk kimonos that were hand sewn, went to the temple to pray with gratitude with all that we had and received all kinds of money and special candy from family.

When I did traditional Japanese dancing, I had to dance to the song one time, which was lots of fun as a kid. Below is the song and a picture of the typical set up of the 5 tier display. These days they can range from $2500 to $15,000 depending on the type of porcelain that the dolls are made from and if real silk is used for the dolls clothes. They are all hand sewn.

I put the 7 tier display at the bottom after the song.

The one my mom has is 45 years old and my daughter will inherit it when my mom gets too old to display it. Which is perfect. My daughter was born on March 3rd so there are always two wonderful celebrations in my household.