Days of Pain

Do you ever get up one morning and realized that there are people in your life that have gone; either by death, they walked away from you or you kicked them out and and at the very moment, you feel that pain of loss?

With death, I know it is hard to put aside the pain. As each day passes, it gets easier but it doesn't go away. I know that because I lost my dad who was still young and the questions come but no answers to console.

For those who walked away, do you ever wonder why? What was it that made them go and cause you pain?

For those who were kicked out, perhaps at that time, you had a good reason but you look back and realize you let a good person go from your life and there might not be a way to ask them back.

We tend to keep grudges because we feel that someone did something to hurt us but think about it seriously and wonder if you also had something to do with it, as well. Maybe they acted that way because you did something to them without knowing but you gave up before asking and let them go. We are so good at getting angry first without thinking things through then in hind sight, we have regrets that we will take with us for the rest of our lives.

But as much as we don't want to feel pain, it is something that teaches us the ways in life. Sure, our first instinct is to push it away and ignore it, hoping it will go away but when we do that, it tends to cause depression because we haven't fully faced it like we should.

Think about it this way... without pain, how do we know pleasure and happiness?

Sometimes, as hard as it is, we need to forgive ourselves for causing pain and forgive those who caused us pain. Without doing that, you tend to become negative and it reflects in your day to day life with everyone you meet.

It is as easy as sitting down in a quiet room, maybe lighting a candle in honor of the person or people you miss or are angry with and thinking about the good in them rather than the bad so that you can give them love and let them go.

Don't hold on to the negative but only the positive. By doing this, it helps you to see the people that way. You don't know the battles they are fighting inside so it is better to forgive easily then to hold a grudge forever.

No pain, no happiness. Know pain, know happiness.